This Is How You Should Not Treat Your Life
The subtle treatments could bring a huge impact on your life.
Waiting until everything is perfect.
Don’t wait until you have the perfect body or have the perfect skill to do the things that you want. You shouldn’t treat your current timeline like it’s just a filler chapter that doesn’t matter. Whatever you do now, it matters. Allow yourself to make that contribution regardless of how good you are.
Did you want that dress? Go ahead and buy it! Even if you don’t look a certain weight, it doesn’t make you any less deserving of getting that dress. You deserve to look good and feel good, at any weight and anytime.
Did you want to make that project? The best way to polish your skill set is to learn as you go, so you don’t have to wait until you become an expert to start that project. It’s better to strike the passion and ideas while they’re hot.
Speak badly of yourself.
The world is not a very kind place. There’s a strange continuous subtle re-programming going on that makes us always feel like we’re never good enough. And at worst, our minds started to work against ourselves. Self-degradation has become a very common thing. We also tend to invalidate our feelings and become our own biggest critics.
Training your mind to be kind is a very important skill these days. Society is already brutal itself, you don’t have to be like them.
Your mind should be a safe place where you can be vulnerable and accepting of your failures. So start nurturing yourself with kind words and affirmations. Read some self-help books or seek professional help if you need it. You deserve all the kindness the world could offer, but you need to start from yourself.
Always seeing other people.
The grass is not always greener on the other side, even if it seems like it. Many people might seem ahead of you, but the truth is, they’re on a different timeline than yours.
Just because someone is getting the things you wanted faster than you, doesn’t mean you can’t achieve the same thing. And just because you don’t achieve it at a certain timeline that you planned, doesn’t mean you’re a failure and falling behind in life.
Whatever we achieve in life, comes with something else. But our eyes are always focused on the rewards, we often overlook the price they have to pay.
There are many ways for you to get what you want, but your route and other people’s route are different. You don’t have to glorify other people’s paths while forsaking your own.
Not setting your boundaries.
This is a common problem for people pleasers. As we live long enough, we’re going to meet people who need to see a clear guideline of our boundaries. Otherwise, we’ll have to deal with unwanted discomfort.
Setting healthy boundaries is a good thing. It doesn’t make you rude or arrogant. Be relentless in listing down your do and don’t when it comes to your social life. It’s okay to keep the good ones and leave the people who can’t respect your boundaries. Being kind and respectful is a basic social norm, but you have no obligation to please everyone in this world.
